wow! this has surely been a hectice week. I even only managed to squeeze the gym in once so far. considering i try to keep to a minimum of 3-4 times a week. Don't worry its a pretty new resolution. i haven't been holding out on u'all that much.
I have been visiting and touring preschools all week for the girls. I knew this time would come pretty soon, and I was actually doing my research slowly but now its come to push or shove. I blogged abt some interview a while back. (omara if u remember we talked abt it) but anyways i finally got a callfrom them on tuesday. And i am quite sure its due to my persistent stalking. But non the lest, I finally got that call n they want me to start nxt tuesday. Ok see what i have put on my self. i have been praying abt it n i asked God to do it speedily but i don't quite think I thot it would be soo soon.
So hence, I am left with the dilema of what to do with the girls. I t really shouldn't be that hard considering that there are gazillions of schools nested around but thats the problem really too many n li know nothing abt them. no recs form peopel cos i don't know anyone in the area. Yeah I am pretty much a home buddy n a loner. I didn't even know that my nxt door neighbour of over a yr now actually has a daughter thats around the girls ages. she's going to be 4 later this yr. n i am seriuos she lives at the next house on my left. not a couple of houses of over. didn't know till yesterday when i was out on the front yard trying to spark a new hobby. gardening. anyways the little girl n her dad where walking towards us n i noticed the girls had stopp picking up the leaves i had asked them to n where focusing on something else, as i looked up, i saw them all walking towards the little girl big grins on their face. she was holding out a golf ball in her hand that she had found and was beckoning them to come take a look. anyways long story short thats how i found out they lived nxt door
so where was I again? anyways, i asked the girls pediatrician and dentist and they recommended a couple like that their job. but i amgrateful they had some. so i started wiv those ist then embarked on the rest.
if i should blog abt the whole school process in its entirety, this will be one hella of long blog. but i will spare u. maybe nxt blog. but i do know i never thot it would be this hard. but u know what, i often find it extremely annoying shopping for the girls cos most often time i can't find three of the same size esecially in shoes so i really shouldn't have been surprised that i got alot of oh its so late in the school yr n we don't have three spaces. so what do u want me to do? do ini mini mani mo n leave one of the girls at home?
some of the places i went to schould be called daycare or babysitters. i mean u can tell that they probably don't do much but sleep n play. I want a place where my kids r going to be challenged. shoo let them come home with home work n mommy will have to take a steo back to see if she is smarter than a preschooler (lol) any one wathces that show?
I swear i wish i could send the girls back home to school. i so much chericsh the education n the standard that we were held to back home. i think by 2 at least, we had started school. my hubby who hasn't ever been in naija, has so much respect for the system. he actually suggested it first. but i will absolutely not part wit my babies. then there is the option of me going with them, what in d world am i supposed to do back home? all my immediate family is here in the states.
anyways after all the headache n heartache of falling in luv with one school to be told that they had to have been three by last september b4 they can enter the 3 yr old class. what d fuck. why call it the threee yr old clas? thats soo misleading. it should have been called the pre 4. or the i don't have three spaces ot i don't have partt time space. bla bla blah. I finally found my diamond in the rough.
Its abt 15 mins from the hosue with no traffice but 4 miles from hubbys office. it has the three day program cos my schedule is for three days a week so i have a four day weekend. oh just the best. couldn't have asked for better. its a private christian school. the class size is very small. ratio of 1:6. they had three spaces. oh i mean they made the three spaces. they actually moved two kids up to the nxt class cos just to accomodate us. but the kids where ready to be moved up anyways academically n maturity wise. n actually they really only had to move one but the other third one had togo too cos they were best friends n they didn't want to be seperated. worked perfectly. even though i will be shelving out more than i really want to , but they r my babies they deserve nothing but the best. i think they also had diversity to the program. cos i didn't see any other black kids as i toured. oh well!
everything seemed to be falling in place till i got a call today from my employers that they would be moving 2weeks of my training to austin. Big SHIT. i don't know if that man will cop with the girls n taking care of them n gettignthem up ready for school. he can hardly wake up on time on his own in the am. i am virtually his alarm clock.
i have thot of sending them to my mom in md, but 1, she works 2, the tickets r ridiculous last minute. i am going to have to come back on the weekend n go back just for peace of mind n i still have to figure something else out for during the week.
i have been praying to join the world of working moms out there but now that i can practically taste it, i don't know. 2wks away from home!!! i know omara, u r probably saying peace of cake. :)
Friday, April 13, 2007
Sunday, April 8, 2007
nntm
Another sereis of reality tv hits nigeria
nigerias next top model.
would love to watch it. dont know when its being aired but i do know that anyone who went to boarding school in nigeria will agree that bunch of women living together under the same roof will definatley brew some drama.
u should read peoples reactions to this.
p.s i just finally figured how to add pics. my next conquest is videos. wish me luck
Wednesday, April 4, 2007
back to the basics
i started out blogging so i can chronicle my adventures as a mother of multiples living the life as a suburbia housewife n i was reading thru my prior blogs n only found 2 at most mentioning or talking abt the girls.
not that there is ever a dull moment with them, its actually the contrary. there is always something new n fun or some headaches n those many moments that i wish i could just take then back to the doctor and ask for a refund. oh well, i think he's policy probabaly doesn't allow for refunds anyways.
my latest battles besides the one over veggie eating is tantrums. i know all ye moms out there r already nodding ur heads n saying been there done that. i know the girls r just three. oh btw, they turned three on saturday, but i just cannot stand the temper tantrums especially when we r out. i can definately handle it when we r home. thats no problem.
like i said in earlier posts, my husband n i definatley believe in discipline. abeg spare the rod n spoit the child seems to be our motto. trust me. we don't resort to spanking all the time. we go thru the stages or phases. we talk it thru. but they r only 3 do they really understand? i think for the most part they do. if that doesn't seem to work, then we threaten to take away the things they love. its funny but i have to threaten them with different things.
with olivia, thats my supermodel/fashionista. when i put them to bed at nite, she gets up goes thur their closet modeling all her clothes. needless to say she is never in her pjs when i go back in the morning. she has a pretty good fashion sense too, she matches when i find her in the morning n when i go shopping, u should see her go thru the racks like she's on a missiosn. when i try something on, she tells me mommy, its cute. So u guessed right when she gets in trouble, i threaten to take away all her clothes n give them to the homeless if she does it again, u should see her start to cry n shake her head n the look in her eyes.
with ophelia, she loves her sunglasses. she sleeps in them, its war to get her to take it off even for baths n she has quite a collection of them so its easy. i go staraight for the sunglasses.
oralia, loves to go to the gym. mummy mummy wanna go to gym. all day long. sometimes i go even when i am not really planning on it just to get her off my back. its kinda a good thing for me though. i guess she loves the play houses n all the other things they get to do. i always wondered why they r soo hungry n tired when i pick them up. shoo i think they get more of a workout than i do.
so after the threatening phase, if they do something really bad, i ask them to hold out their hands and smack the back of it. just once or twice. it seems to do the trick.
but it gets tricky when we r out n u all know how things r. don't let one busy body see u spanking ur kids outside n they call child protective services right away. so i try not to in public. i may however sneak some pinches away from the watchful eyes of people or take them into the bathroom. but soemtimes i may not have that luxury.
for example, one of the thigns we did for their bday was chucky cheese. now, one of the rides takes pictures of u while u are on it. olivia and oralia were on it. so of course they were both in the picture. olivia always being her controlling self. was already yelling thats my picture even b4 the picture came out. so anywyas there was a squable over the picture. olivia then takes it upon herslef to throw a tantrum right there on the floor with everyone watching. needless to say it was embarassing, then my inpatient mother in law who forgets that they r just kids n will act out everyonce in a while starts gettign quite agitated that she is displaying such in public. if she had let me handle the situation, i probably could have gotten her settled alot sooner or just simply escaped to the restroom. i think every one knows there is no reasoning per say with an angry child like that. i mean she was screaming the roof down. eventually we end up abandoning the party cos she took her outside n we just decided to leave as the whole mood had been spoilt. can u imagine she didn't even want to ride with us back home, my mother in law that is. i guess its too embarassing to be associated with us. luckliy my brother inlaw was there so he took her home. whatever!!!!
so back to my point, i really want to nip this tantrum thing in the butt b4 it gets out of hands. any suggestions?
another thing that i have been struggling with is the thumb sucking. my husband is sooo particular abt that. he is so concerned abt them having an over bite n then needing braces. well their dentist says she will be very concerned after 4 cos then they would start getting their permanent teeth in. but its better if we start trying to get them to stop now.
the last time i tied their thumbs up so that they wouldn't suck it, the whole house did not sleep that nite. they tossed n turned n cried all nite. at abt 4a.m, my husband stormed out of bed n yanked the things of. he had to be at work in the morning and had had enough.
so any pointers on that would be appreciated too.
its gettign a little harder to keep them all in the same ouftit. cos they r begining to want to do their own things. i wonder how much longer i'll be able to keep dressing them the way i want.
and last but not the least, i can't teach them how to peddle for the life of me. they got a bike for xmas, n they r still sitting brand new in their paly room cos they won't peddle. i am not the most patient person so i must admitt i kinda gave up on that. besides shouldn't that be a daddy's thing.
not that there is ever a dull moment with them, its actually the contrary. there is always something new n fun or some headaches n those many moments that i wish i could just take then back to the doctor and ask for a refund. oh well, i think he's policy probabaly doesn't allow for refunds anyways.
my latest battles besides the one over veggie eating is tantrums. i know all ye moms out there r already nodding ur heads n saying been there done that. i know the girls r just three. oh btw, they turned three on saturday, but i just cannot stand the temper tantrums especially when we r out. i can definately handle it when we r home. thats no problem.
like i said in earlier posts, my husband n i definatley believe in discipline. abeg spare the rod n spoit the child seems to be our motto. trust me. we don't resort to spanking all the time. we go thru the stages or phases. we talk it thru. but they r only 3 do they really understand? i think for the most part they do. if that doesn't seem to work, then we threaten to take away the things they love. its funny but i have to threaten them with different things.
with olivia, thats my supermodel/fashionista. when i put them to bed at nite, she gets up goes thur their closet modeling all her clothes. needless to say she is never in her pjs when i go back in the morning. she has a pretty good fashion sense too, she matches when i find her in the morning n when i go shopping, u should see her go thru the racks like she's on a missiosn. when i try something on, she tells me mommy, its cute. So u guessed right when she gets in trouble, i threaten to take away all her clothes n give them to the homeless if she does it again, u should see her start to cry n shake her head n the look in her eyes.
with ophelia, she loves her sunglasses. she sleeps in them, its war to get her to take it off even for baths n she has quite a collection of them so its easy. i go staraight for the sunglasses.
oralia, loves to go to the gym. mummy mummy wanna go to gym. all day long. sometimes i go even when i am not really planning on it just to get her off my back. its kinda a good thing for me though. i guess she loves the play houses n all the other things they get to do. i always wondered why they r soo hungry n tired when i pick them up. shoo i think they get more of a workout than i do.
so after the threatening phase, if they do something really bad, i ask them to hold out their hands and smack the back of it. just once or twice. it seems to do the trick.
but it gets tricky when we r out n u all know how things r. don't let one busy body see u spanking ur kids outside n they call child protective services right away. so i try not to in public. i may however sneak some pinches away from the watchful eyes of people or take them into the bathroom. but soemtimes i may not have that luxury.
for example, one of the thigns we did for their bday was chucky cheese. now, one of the rides takes pictures of u while u are on it. olivia and oralia were on it. so of course they were both in the picture. olivia always being her controlling self. was already yelling thats my picture even b4 the picture came out. so anywyas there was a squable over the picture. olivia then takes it upon herslef to throw a tantrum right there on the floor with everyone watching. needless to say it was embarassing, then my inpatient mother in law who forgets that they r just kids n will act out everyonce in a while starts gettign quite agitated that she is displaying such in public. if she had let me handle the situation, i probably could have gotten her settled alot sooner or just simply escaped to the restroom. i think every one knows there is no reasoning per say with an angry child like that. i mean she was screaming the roof down. eventually we end up abandoning the party cos she took her outside n we just decided to leave as the whole mood had been spoilt. can u imagine she didn't even want to ride with us back home, my mother in law that is. i guess its too embarassing to be associated with us. luckliy my brother inlaw was there so he took her home. whatever!!!!
so back to my point, i really want to nip this tantrum thing in the butt b4 it gets out of hands. any suggestions?
another thing that i have been struggling with is the thumb sucking. my husband is sooo particular abt that. he is so concerned abt them having an over bite n then needing braces. well their dentist says she will be very concerned after 4 cos then they would start getting their permanent teeth in. but its better if we start trying to get them to stop now.
the last time i tied their thumbs up so that they wouldn't suck it, the whole house did not sleep that nite. they tossed n turned n cried all nite. at abt 4a.m, my husband stormed out of bed n yanked the things of. he had to be at work in the morning and had had enough.
so any pointers on that would be appreciated too.
its gettign a little harder to keep them all in the same ouftit. cos they r begining to want to do their own things. i wonder how much longer i'll be able to keep dressing them the way i want.
and last but not the least, i can't teach them how to peddle for the life of me. they got a bike for xmas, n they r still sitting brand new in their paly room cos they won't peddle. i am not the most patient person so i must admitt i kinda gave up on that. besides shouldn't that be a daddy's thing.
Monday, April 2, 2007
its official, the war has begun
i got a call abt 10.45 p.m, it was my aunt calling to tell me that if her son came to me n asked me to accompany him to naija to get married in december, i shouldn't anwser him. everyone in the family has been banned from having anything to do withthis so called wedding.
i see the coward of a boy has fianlly fessed up to my aunt abt his wedding plans. can u imagine, my aunt says she calle dhim to come take her to a birthday party, then on the way in the car he told her, mom i am planning on getting married in december in naija. just thot i'ld let u know.
then he goes on to say after all when u were getting marreid, did ur own mother tell u when to get married or when u were ready to get married.
my ist question to my aunt was did she give him a dirty slap. what kind of question is that.
u know maybe b4 i became a mother, the question or remark may not haev bothered me but i can just imagine one of my girls saying that to me. ludacris i say.
anyways, the war is officially on now. my aunt is even calling all his friends that she knows that they must not go to naija with him. i don't know what good that would do though. seems like his mind is made up.
my own thing is i just can't get over what kind of family plans a weddign for their daughter without the grooms family coming to ask for ther hand in marriage. how can they plan a wedding knowing that no one in the grooms family is going to show up for.
well kudos to my cousin sha cos it sure as hell takes guts to be a lone ranger like that.
i really feel like my aunt should call her parents n let them know that hey have heard of the proposed wedding n tell them how they feel abt it. afterall r they wishing them dead that they would hold a wedding while they r hale n hearty in their absence. i am sure they wouldn't stand their own kids doing the same to them.
how do u tell ur parents that u r gettign married n just telling them for their information. aren't u supposed to sit them down, with or without the girl n let them know that this is where u r n this is what u would like to do n then talks commence from there.
i say the boy has lost it. my uncle says nko imi wani ibe. there is soemthing else behind this. oju lasan ko. this is beyond what the mere eyes can see.
i see the coward of a boy has fianlly fessed up to my aunt abt his wedding plans. can u imagine, my aunt says she calle dhim to come take her to a birthday party, then on the way in the car he told her, mom i am planning on getting married in december in naija. just thot i'ld let u know.
then he goes on to say after all when u were getting marreid, did ur own mother tell u when to get married or when u were ready to get married.
my ist question to my aunt was did she give him a dirty slap. what kind of question is that.
u know maybe b4 i became a mother, the question or remark may not haev bothered me but i can just imagine one of my girls saying that to me. ludacris i say.
anyways, the war is officially on now. my aunt is even calling all his friends that she knows that they must not go to naija with him. i don't know what good that would do though. seems like his mind is made up.
my own thing is i just can't get over what kind of family plans a weddign for their daughter without the grooms family coming to ask for ther hand in marriage. how can they plan a wedding knowing that no one in the grooms family is going to show up for.
well kudos to my cousin sha cos it sure as hell takes guts to be a lone ranger like that.
i really feel like my aunt should call her parents n let them know that hey have heard of the proposed wedding n tell them how they feel abt it. afterall r they wishing them dead that they would hold a wedding while they r hale n hearty in their absence. i am sure they wouldn't stand their own kids doing the same to them.
how do u tell ur parents that u r gettign married n just telling them for their information. aren't u supposed to sit them down, with or without the girl n let them know that this is where u r n this is what u would like to do n then talks commence from there.
i say the boy has lost it. my uncle says nko imi wani ibe. there is soemthing else behind this. oju lasan ko. this is beyond what the mere eyes can see.
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