identity crisis or brain washing?

There is something that has been harboring on my mind for a bit now. i have noticed something that happens to be reocurring amongst people i have been talking to the last several yrs.
for starters, i was talking to a girlfriend of mine the other day, and she was complaining about her situation, she just recently quit her job, she had been working at a bank for the last yr or so. why did u quit ur job now? did u have other prospects? these where the ist things outta my mouth.

she just said she was tired. her manager was just unbearable, difficult to deal with, unreasonble deadlines and such a big micromanager. i said hmm. was it that unbearable? while thinking in my mind girl, ur circumstances now can't afford u a job loss. my girlfriend is very recently separated from her husband. they had been married under a yr and to top it off she had a new baby probably about a mth old. the whole situation was ugly n the bobo was not the least bit trying to be supportive. but that is yarn for another day back to my point. anyways so what nxt lady? my gfriend had no clue. the thing is she has a bachelors degree in computer information systems. she however has not worked a day with the degree. right after graduation, she left 4 naija n only came back when that stupid bobo lurred her back to the states. anyways, she started working in the banking industry when she couldn't get a job wiv her degree due to the usual "lack of experience" abeg how r we supposed to get experience wiv out getting a job ist.

so what kind of job r u going to look 4 now. she says my sister i don't know. honestly the computer field is not even really my passion. u know how it is when ur paretns r footing the bill u have to do whatever major suits their sole or makes u them the proud paretns. the options r always law, medicine, banking or pharmacy and thanks to the computer boom some yrs back and computers.

she goes on to say that she feels like she ahs been soo brain washed that she doesn't even know what it is she wants to do jare. besides the usuall, dr, lawyer, pharmacy n computer gigs what else would u rather do? gosh! she says again i can't even tell u. it was been so ingraved in us since we were little, the same 'ole dr lawyer stuff, i can't think of an alternative.

at ist i wanted to attribute it to all that she has been tru , u know all the stress n maybe she is just plain confused right now, but i was talking to another friend the other day who was having a similar plight as in she really wanted to switch careers but even if she were to go back to school or just start from scratch, she couldn't get beyond the same choices. dr, lawyer e.t.c

my younger brother has the same plight even though i really want to say that he is going tru one of them akata syndromes, sophomore in college with undecided major? wtf!!!
but he says sis, i can't see or think of anything else besides the same ole dr, laywer e.t.c thing and i know i definately do not want to conform besides my interests do not lie there abeg.


so it got me thinking, are all these folks having some kinda identity crisis or iare we really (as naija kids) that brian washed that we can't even think or pick a career for ourselves besides the same ole dr lawyer and banker likes.


ok lets even think about it even i myself, i am in the medical field, i am a nurse, even though i have never practiced a day in my life but when i come to think of it, when i came to this country, my major was pre med, i think every one always wanted to be a dr growing up. i i think it maybe largely due to the fact that my parents wanted me to be a dr, and as things turned the nursing boom got the better of me ojare, withthe demand and how much these agencies are willing to pay and not to mention the fact that i wouldn't have to spend half my life slaving over books in the library for yrs studying in med school and the recidencies and all, i took the easier route oh. but come to think of it,i can't think of anything else that i would want to do besides the medical field so have i been brain washd also or is this just an innate preference or what?

brain washing , identity crisis, or just plain lack of sense of direction which is it?