nanny troubles contd

he asked as he always does if the girls had eaten n she of course first rolled her eyes as n replied yes. my husband went about his business n made himself a plate to eat for dinner. as he settled down to eat, the girls came up to him wanting to eat wth him. this is not unusuall n he proceded to feed them. but what amazed him was the tenacity with which they ate. i mean they were all over the food like they hadn't eated in days. so my husband turned round n asked mama again " are u sure this children have eaten".

It was at this point that i walked in thru the door from work to a house of chaos. my husband is yelling, she is screaming, crying, shouting n kids just looking on in amazement. mama is upset because she says hubby has accused her of neglecting the girls n not feeding them. hubby turns to me n says honey all i did was ask her if the girls had eaten.

well the ist thing that got me was, my hubby is very quiet. it takes a lot to push his buttons n 4 him to get soo upset as to raise hi voice at her, he must have been real thicked. anyways, i am trying to be calm cos mama is just wilding out, saying she wants to call her son, she is being mistreated bla bla bla so i tell her to go ahead n call her son. i told her she could use the cordless phone cos the mounted phone was not working properly. i turn around am talking to hubby n say about 5 mins, my cell phone rings, its my girlfirend who lives in the same subdivision as i did. she's like bunmi, she everythings ok. am like yeah why? shes like well, why is ur nanny in the streets flagging down cars? i saw her as i turned into the subdivision. am like what?

i had just spoken to her like 5 mins ago. she was right here wiv us. anyways, she had just walked out the house wiv out telling us. ist off, we had just moved into this neighbourhood probably, about 3days so she sure as heck didnot know where she was going. the lady bareley spoke english. what if something happened to her or she got in a strangers car. what am i to tell her son.?

immediately, hubby wnet out to go look 4 her. he came back a couple of mins later n said he had driven round the neighbourhood n out of the subdivission n couldn't find her. at this pt, i am like i have had it. this is not working at all. am like what am i gaining from the lady? nothing but drama n confusion. then i recall all the drama from 2wks ago when i had taken one of the girls to the emergency rm in the middle of the nite. my self n hubby took her n left the other 2 with mama. which was a huge huge mistake. i learnt the hard way that once one of them is ill, u better get all of them checked out or treated. n we all know how things go at the emergency rm. hrs of waiting, when we were finally seen, the doc told us he had to transfer us to another hospital that is specifically a childrens hospital, we then had to wait for an ambulance. mind u if i had jusy driven tothe nxt hospital, i probably would have gotten there sooner. of course d hospital wouldn't let us leave, we had to wait 4 the darn ambulance. anyways all this is like 8-10 hrs. i am begining to get worried about the other girls. i am calling mama on the hosue phone sh e aint picking it up. she usually doesn't pick it up cos she can't tell us who called anyways. but one would think that she would have picked it up cos she was having a crisis at home. the other two girls had gotten sick while we were gone. she was going crazy herself cos she didn't know what to do n she didnot know how to use the phone. we have tried so many times to teach her but she just refuses to use it. i am begining to panic even though i am unaware of whats going on at home, but i guess, a mothers hunch,i could just sense there was something wrong. anyways, i am trying to get some one to go over there n check things out n make sure every thing was ok. i am finally able to reach my brother who goes over there. but mama wasn't answering the door. she claims she was upsatirs intheback rm n didn't hear the door bell or knocks. anyways once we get to the other hospital, hubby dashes back home to go check on them, n he gets there n finds the other girls where sick too n he had to bring them to the hospital.

all the drama could have been avoided if only she knew how to use the phone. she could have called us or even been able to pick up the phone when i had tried calling. besides thats just too dangereous. had it been a life threatening illness, the story could have been different

anyways i am weighing all that we have been thru n am like this is just too much. i call her son, i tell him look ur mom just walked out the house wiv out telling us n we don't know where she is. i tell him hubby has gone searching 4 her n can't seem to find her. i am about to call the cops. anyways he says not to. he'll be down here in a minute. then he calls me back on his way asking me why we were questioning her like that in the ist place. that it was our fault we upset her n why did we let her leave the house. at this pt i had had it with both her n her son. anyways as he pulls up tothe house an unknown car pulls up to the front of the house too. some guy had kindly picked her up from the streets, he could barely understand what she was saying but he knew he had seen her b4 with the girls at the park n knew he had also seen the girls infront of our house so guessed we lived there.

i thanked him profusely, then turned back around, went upstairs picked up her belongings n handed it over to her son n told them no hard feelings but it was time she left. can u beleive the son was still trying to beg n see what he could do. he really didn't want to have to take her home with him. his wife i guess threatened to leave if she ever came back. n mama has simply refused to go back to their country. anyways i closed my door n bid them a goodnite.

i could go on and on about my dealings with mama but i think i'll leave thigns at that. i am just glad the nigthmare eventually ended.


ok, even though we were burned n where still nursing our wounds from the whole mama saga, we accepted a replacement from the agency. hey i still had to go to work.

rebecca, was very nice. indian lady. very gentle soul. she was sooo sooo careful with the girls. i mean when she watched them , she really watched them i mean with all her senses she literally watched their every move. it was good but then we had to relocate n she didn't want to leave her family behind so we had to let her go. i was soo sad to loose her.

ok once we relocated, the agency sent someone else. zainab. she was a younger girl. we had specified we wanted someone younger cos the girls were getting quite active n could be a hand full. they needed someone with tons of energy. despite unsolicited warnings from friends and family. "u know u guys r a new couple, don't go bring temptation into ur house n so on"


ofcourse as usual the honeymoon phase was sweet. at ist i laid down the rules. told her straight up. u r here to work so pls behave appropriately. i took her to the store bought her a new wardrobe cos the scanty clothing that she brought wiv her that looked like stuff my younger cousins wear to the club would not do. anyways besides that things were good. i pretty much treated her like my younger sister. when i went shopping 4 me, i always bought things 4 her, when people came around, i told them she was my sister. when i got my hair done, she got hers done too. she seemed to love the girls n the girls fellin love with her too. shoo, i started getting jealous sometimes, they would rather be with her than me sometimes. but it was all good. i was just glad that they were being well taken care of. well trouble started in paradise when girlie asked me to get her a cell phone. something kinda gwaned at me but i went ahead n did it anyways. whatever she wanted as long as she took good care of my babies. well after the cell phone came, things just started going down the drain. she would be on it 24/7. talking to all sorts of guys. she started slacking in her duties. u know how it is when u r young n men start toasting u n ur head begins to swell n u think u'r it. no one can tell u anything. she started catching attitudes. e.g, when i go out n get back, walk thur door, she wouldn't even look to see who came in thru d door, she'd be on her phone yapping away. it could have been a robber for all she cared. she wouldn't even say hello. when i confronted her she siad "well in my village, when peole go out n come back, they r the ones that greet the people that they meet at home". mind u this never used to happen. the thing is though this youngen that now has wings just came to the country oh!, she could not be more than 17 n she is already being lead astray by men. she evetually told us that one of her "uncles" wanted to help her file some papers n she would have to go to newyork. this girl had only one relative in the states n it was an aunt that lived in maryland. anyways, i called her aunt u had no idea what i was talking about. needless to say , she left n never went back to her aunt who she was staying with origianlly. till date, the aunt doesn't know where she is. i hope she is ok sha wherever she was lead to.

by this time hubby n i were done with disapppointments. we didn't want people just coming n going out of the girls lives. we wanted more stability and security for them. n the only way we could guarantee that was if we just simply did thigns ourselves so we kissed the agency n their crazy nanies goodbye n went back to taking care of the girls ourselves. hence my title the suburbanaija mom.